After She Arrives
Although you may have done as much as possible to prepare her for the experience of moving into your world she will still face the unique challenge of adapting to you, your home, your city and your society once she actually arrives. If you think that she will be eternally happy and content to sit at home waiting for you to return from work you are setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. Too many men think that once they have brought their Russian lady into their comfortable and convenient lifestyle they have little more to do since she will be so grateful just to outside of Russia. This is pure folly. You will enhance your success for a long term, permanent relationship if you are sensitive and compassionate to the emotions and challenge your lady will experience while adapting to your world. You will be richly rewarded if you support her in all ways possible to help her become fulfilled as a person, a woman and a wife.
If you prepare her correctly she will understand that it will take time for her to establish her own personal and professional identity as well as a sense of independence. Until that time comes she will be very dependant on you. Her dependence on you is a natural part of the adaptation process. It is not necessarily bad if you both understand it and are comfortable and agreeable to it. If you are not then this could be a source of unpleasant conflict if it is not anticipated or managed effectively.
During this time she will need you more than ever to be her guide and source of love and support. All that you do to demonstrate your love and concern about her wellbeing during this especially challenging time will create a strong foundation for your relationship and enhance its longevity. Any short comings you demonstrate in this area will only serve to undermine her confidence and faith in you as a man and a husband.
It’s hard to say exactly how long the process of adaptation will last. It could be several months or several years. The duration will really depend on two aspects . . . what each of you brings to the issue. From her side, if she is resourceful and strong in her character then the process of adaptation will go quicker and smoother. You don’t have much control or influence on this so for the most part you will have to accept your lady as she is. On the other hand you do have a tremendous amount of control and influence on the level of support and opportunities you choose to provide to her in helping her become a whole person. This means an investment of your time and financial resources to help your lady become happier and more productive in her new life with you.
Aside from what she can do and what you can do there will always be a certain amount of ‘fate’ and ‘chance’ at play that can accelerate or inhibit progress to whatever goals you both are reaching for.
More valuable information can be found in the Advice Guide:
Things To Do After She Arrives