Planning for Her Arrival
While you are waiting for your government’s approval for your lady’s entrance visa to your country there are many strategic things you can do during this time. Not only will this time become a test of your patience but also it will be a test of the quality of your relationship. If the strength of your bond is not strong enough to endure the waiting period then you have learned something very valuable and probably saved yourself from future grief and expense. Actually, your government had this in mind when it set up the process and its time consuming procedures for issuing Fiancée Visas.
Although you may obtain her visa in a few weeks or months the visa may have a valid period of use, possibly up to 6 months after the date of issue. This means you can schedule her arrival to be at a time that is most convenient and practical for you both. You may be tempted by your longing for one another to schedule her travel to you as soon as possible however this may not be the best course of action especially if you do not have a long amount of time with each other. If this is the case for you then use this time to become better acquainted about the character of your lady before she arrives. This will either confirm or challenge your original opinions and impressions of her during a more sober period of time when you can think carefully about the consequences of your choice.
If you are confident that you have found the right woman for you then your focus during this period can be directed towards preparing her for the lifestyle and cultural changes she will encounter once she starts living in your home and city. Reflect on when you made your first visit to Russia . . . you undoubtedly noticed the differences between your lifestyle and hers. Maybe you even discussed them with your lady during your visit. It would be short sighted to think that your lady will immediately enjoy and prefer your lifestyle even if you think it is more comfortable and convenient. This will be one of the biggest changes your lady will ever experience and it will take time to adjust and adapt to it. The length of time for her adjustment is not predictable and will certainly depend on what she is used to from her current lifestyle and previous experiences.
During the course of her stay with you she will undoubtedly become homesick and may even become depressed. She may display her unhappiness in numerous ways and request or threaten to return to home. Although this may be a natural part of her adaptation to a new home and lifestyle it can be seriously threatening to the prospects of your long term relationship. Countless men have arranged for their lady to travel to their home country only to have her return back to Russia within a few weeks or months because she was not able to adapt to the change. Not only is this outcome a significant loss of money but the emotional costs are immeasurable and even more consequential.
After all you have gone through up to this point it would be disheartening to see it all go to waste. There are several things you can do to avoid or at least minimize this disheartening scenario from occurring. There are two things you need to know to maximize your success at this stage of your relationship. First you must understand the psychological process of adaptation to cultural change and be on guard for any emotional and physical warning signs that she is having difficulties. Second you can be proactive in preparing her for her new experience before she arrives and strategic in your actions and activities after she arrives to accelerate and simplify her adaptation to a new country, a new lifestyle and a new man in her life.
More valuable information can be found in the Advice Guides:
How to Prepare for Her Arrival (part1)
How to Prepare for Her Arrival (part 2)